I began attending CODA, codependents anonymous in 1990, as relationships were my big interest at the time. I began sponsoring people in that program, and was placed on the nationwide speaker circuit later that year. After speaking engagements up and down California, and then across the United States, I had become known for counseling in the 12-step world. I lectured in front of over 250,000 people from 1990 to 1996.
I began, for a brief time, attending Phillips Graduate Institute in Los Angeles in the hopes to complete a masters degree. I then took on an internship at the Family Counseling Center. I was placed in a supervision group with others gaining their 2500-3000 hours in the marriage and family therapy program.
I quickly learned in the masters program, and at the Family Counseling Center that it was all far too slow for me. I had read all the books in the masters program before I got there, and wound up teaching 30 minutes during a class in the first week because the professor had never heard of attachment theory.
I then knew a had some problems. One of them was that I was highly immersed in group therapy for myself, and I had just about rewritten a simpler version of the most known group psychotherapy book at the time, Irvin Yalom's Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy. I had also summarized and taught some lectures on Scott Peck's The Road Less Traveled. The teachings of the time were far too slow for me.
I negotiated with my supervision program to take the clients with me. I left the masters degree program. In the masters program there was one half of a book that was required reading on attachment theory. I somehow knew that was the only path that truly helps relationship issues.
I went on to become a co-teacher at a Buddhism awareness school in Los Angeles. And from that group came some other groups I ran utilizing John James book, The Grief Recovery Handbook. That training ran deep for me. I began to piece together trauma and attachment theory and realized the world barely has this training.
It wasn't until 2014 that I discovered Sue Johnson's work. I knew I wanted to build courses, and I wanted to focus on couples after attending the Interchange Counseling Institute for the year in 2013. Sue Johnson pieced together Attachment Theory and Couples, and most of what was in her training manuals, I had been doing already, but it was her scientific studies that sealed in my choices as counselor.
2015 was the first year I trained a psychiatrist on how to work with couples. I built the TherapistTrack program which teaches psychologists, therapists and coaches how to work with couples.
Therapists from around the world send me their clients, the most difficult clients, usually couples. 75% of my couples practice is with trauma-based couples.
Since 1990 I have formally done 36,000 of counseling. Since 2014 90% has been couples only. There is not a masters program to train practitioners how to work with couples. Over the next 5 years, I will be building the start of such a school.
I also worked with the board of behavioral sciences in 2015, when I researched masters degree programs again. First of all, there aren't any yet that have come up to speed with attachment theory. And even more importantly, the board of behavioral sciences would not back me on using my couples sessions as the training ground to teach the world, even with signed contracts. I hired an attorney to verify this with them. I won't be formally pursuing a license with the board of behavioral sciences.
Attachment theory bolted onto emotionally focused counseling is the only thing that helps distressed couples, at an 85% success rate. It's what my life will be dedicated to.
Every two people that want to be close have a problem right from the start. It's not taught anywhere what to do when conflict arises... conflict that lasts for an extended period of time. When this occurs, partners make up stories about the other, and then begin using those stories against each other. In this in depth look at how this wrecks our closest relationship, Derek Hart will walk us down the path of the most important thing to know to create repair in your relationships. You might say that this will be mostly an unlearning.
Bill Mannle, LMFT is a Gestalt and Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice in Connecticut, USA. He has been involved with Family Constellations since 2003. As an international trainer and facilitator Bill has conducted seminars in Connecticut, New York, California, Hawaii, Germany, Denmark, Australia, Mexico, Spain, Belgium, Brazil, Canada, Croatia and China. Interested in Constellation's ever-expanding form, he is exploring its deeper spiritual, heart opening nature, and the affects along the path.
Disruption in the flow of love caused by traumas, abandonment, and loss ripples into the shadows of the family landscape, often emerging as illness, insecure attachments, emotional difficulties, and broken relationships.
Family Constellations is a unique, experiential approach to healing. A kind of "living map," it provides a creative and profound way of seeing into turbulence that shapes our lives and the suffering we experience. It has the potential to touch us on a deep energetic level, often leading to a transformation and a realization that we are no longer alone.
In the words of poet David Whyte, the process offers an invitation:
"Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into the
conversation. The kettle is singing
even as it pours you a drink; the cooking pots
have left their arrogant aloofness and
seen the good in you at last. All the birds
and creatures of the world are unutterably
themselves. Everything is waiting for you."
"You will be found."
Benj Pasek/Justin Paul from "Dear Evan Hansen"
Francesca Gentille, Certified Clinical Sexologist and initiated shaman, inspires transformation through combining the science and soul of sexuality. For over 20 years, she´s compassionately empowered 1000s of clients, and students around the world to reclaim the spark, bridge sexual differences, heal from trauma, and deepen self love!
An expert in the field of integrating sexuality, consciousness, healing, Tantra, Conscious Non-Monogamy, and the use of BDSM as therapeutic modality. She is professor at the International Institute of Clinical Sexology, where she is studying to receive her PHD. She has conducted workshops, and presented at conferences in the United States, Netherlands, Italy, Malta, Israel, England, Ireland, Canada, Mexico, and Puerto Rico, and England.
Our limbic systems have mirror neurons. While these are the source of empathy, they are also the source of escalation. With practices of Conscious Communication and Quantum Connection, we can create and sustain healthy relationships.
We will explore and practice:
We all carry certain levels of personal, cultural, or epigenetic trauma. We will unpack what has become normalized trauma and how to rewire it through new practices in relating.
Each trigger is not only in the moment it carries the echoes of our past. It´s so intriguing. Whether triggered toward desire or demands, connection or contraction, there is an age, and a life stage that is responding.
What I am most fascinated by is how these Inner Aspects, once recognized and consciously collaborated with can create more intimacy, pleasure, and play. When they are unknown, suppressed rejected or avoided, they act out underground in destructive and often familiar patterns.
We will discover and explore:
Philippe is a relationship educator and founder of Exquisite Love, a platform for supporting men and women in making informed choices about relationships through the practice of connection, trust, consent, intimacy, and love. He is also co-founder of ReMENber Brotherhood Journey and a coordinator with ISTA, the International School of Temple Arts. In addition, Philippe is a modern voice on critical thinking about morality and the integration of the Masculine, Feminine, Dark, Light, and Shadow. He has also founded the Open Relationship Community, Attachment Community, and Consent Community to support new conversations on these important topics. As a loving father to an 11-year-old son, Philippe is constantly inspired to deepen his understanding and practice of surrendering to love and living life to the fullest.
A very gentle introduction to self-regulation and co-regulation. This class will teach you the basics of finding your own center and finding balance with what is available around you, whether it is the ground, nature, breath, or someone else.
As you explore your journey to Secure, what skills, qualities, and superpowers are you discovering in yourselve and others that you feel express best your inner security? In what ways do you now have more space, resilience, clarity, and insight in your life as you engage with others? What are the superpowers that you are developing as you move from your own particular attachment style into an earned secure attachment? (hint: many of these superpowers were born from your time as an insecure attacher) In this class, we will discover and explore one set of secure attachment qualities, and share with each other the unique ones we have developed on our own journey.
Ever been in relationship and noticed how you or your partner seemed to be following a sort of unspoken emotional “script” or “dance” leading you two down a path where triggers, difficulties, arguments, challenges, insecurities, and limitations seemed to get the best of you? If you’ve been on this planet for long enough, you may have noticed that these patterns are more or less repeated for you and your partner. You’ve seen yourself enter these relationships again and again and again, always knowing that something is up but never quite knowing WHY.
Enters Attachment Theory, the remarkable view of relationships that seems to pretty much explain EVERYTHING about how people can be secure or insecure in relationship and how regardless of your attachment style you will likely be in relationship with people who are either. Knowing about attachment theory and recognizing and knowing how to work with people with various attachment styles is one of the single most useful skills you can have in life.
It was perhaps just a few weeks or months since you discovered attachment theory. You learned about the two main types of insecure strategies --avoidance and anxiety-- and the patterns of behavior that express these insecurities through a relationship to needs that perhaps seem to come from a deep and young part of yourself.
This class is about beginning the journey to a more mature relationship to needs. A journey to self-care and to interdependence. A journey to a secure attachment style.
In this original class, you will learn...
★ To locate yourself more clearly on the map of attachment styles.
★ To recognize your insecure patterns more readily, and to share them without shame with the people you engage with.
★ How to plan your journey to a secure attachment style.
★ Somatic, emotional, physical, social, spiritual, and primal practices to develop in order to grow your emotional balance.
★ To answer the question "What do a secure person do?" with clarity when in a difficult situation.
★ To identify who are the secure people in your life and who are your anchors
★ Practices for the individual and for couples to anchor/stabilize each other, and the downsides/reduction of control/freedom of being in intimate relationships
Perhaps you're anxious or disorganized and trying to understand your avoidant partner(s), or perhaps you're avoidant and trying to communicate your reality to your partners. Either way, this class is for you!
In this class we will discuss:
★ What it's like to have an avoidant attachment style from a nervous system and emotional resources perspective
★ Your partner's avoidant coping mechanisms and how best engage with them so they happen less
★ Your own anxious coping mechanisms and how to support becoming more secure so you don't have to use them so much (and reduce your partner's coping mechanisms in the process)
★ The dynamics that create your anxiety and their avoidance (and identifying them better so you can learn to avoid them)
★ A Q&A from the "kingdom of avoidant attachment" (ie, I'm here to answer all your questions, small and big)
★ Practices to develop better regulation, self-care, and re-sourcing to improve your ability to be in the mystery your avoidant partner presents every day.
Bring your challenges and your questions!
Dolphin Kasper is a Canadian Born Author, Communicator, and Life Breakthrough Catalyst. He has been working in the space of personal and relational transformation for over 23 years. Dolphin uses his own personal journey and his extensive work with individuals, couples, and groups to identify and clarify the most powerful ways you can finally heal your past and unlock the full potential of your future. This fundamental transformation is what lies at the heart of our ability to create and sustain the relationships and the life we have been longing for. His passion is for creating innovative spaces where people can rediscover their deepest purpose and learn how to express that purpose in their lives. Join him for what is always a potent opportunity to more deeply know yourself and to become reinspired to live out those things that matter most to you.
What if you could have a deeper understanding of the pieces at play in all of the difficulty in your life? What if you held the keys to unlocking ease and effortlessness in your communication, conflict, and the relationships you most want to create?
In this workshop, you’ll have the chance to explore a new model for the human condition that will demystify many of the confusions and misunderstandings people make when it comes to navigating and healing their relational lives.
Expect a unique new way of conceptualizing and making sense of human behavior and of attachment theory. There will be discourse, dialogue, and opportunities to ask questions, challenge ideas and see how this new model of the human condition applies and makes sense of the source of our pain and what we have struggled to fully understand about our relationships and why they’ve been the way they’ve been.
Come to this workshop and leave with a new sense of clarity and optimism with regards to what has previously felt stuck in your life and a roadmap for what can happen moving forward.
This workshop will build on the previous workshop - Understanding Attachment Patterns - but does not require it to participate.
In this workshop you will be guided in a series of particular, experiential activities in order to directly realize the underlying nature and structure of our attachment system and will be supported to learn the fundamental vocabulary of the integrative process.
What that means is that you will explore and come to understand how and why the unresolved aspects of your past keep showing up and impacting your present, adult life (whether negatively or positively) and you’ll be given the base language and the key tools that act as a blueprint for the integration of any and all disconnected or unresolved relational patterns.
Come, explore, play, discover and fulfill your relational potential!
Naiya (She/Her) is a queer US-born consent and sex educator, embodiment therapist, movement artist, death doula, community weaver, and intercultural psychologist. She has had a deep relationship with the wisdom and mystery of the body since childhood, spending 20 years of her life in the water as a competitive swimmer. Since retirement, her foundation in the embodied experience of mystical states has has expanded to apply to reimagining community organisms through intentional and inclusive community organization.
Naiya holds a bachelors in Psychology from Florida International University and a masters in Intercultural Psychology from ISCTE-IUL in Lisbon, Portugal and The University of Oslo, Norway through the GLOBAL-MINDS Erasmus Mundus program. Her work and research has focused on sexuality in cross-cultural contexts, immigrant and refugee populations, intergenerational conflict, sexual trauma, youth wellness initiatives, harm reduction, and intentional communities. She is a Fulbright scholar (Romania) and a returned Peace Corps volunteer (Kyrgystan).
Naiya’s work in her private practice and group workshops is informed by IFS, systemic constellations, neo & non-dual tantra, Hakomi, 5 Rhythms, and somatic-focused psychotherapies. She has been guiding others in sacred earth medicine ceremonies, dance, community circles, breathwork, yin yoga, and somatic psychotherapy since 2016 and working as a consultant and freelance community organizer since 2008. Through her work, she creates space to empower others, individually and collectively, to express and integrate their inner voices through breath, sound, and movement. Though frequently nomadic, she currently resides in the high Rocky Mountains of Colorado (unceded Arapahoe territory) and is the daughter of third generation Sicilian and Ashkenazi Jewish immigrants.
Come explore connection through contact as we ride the waves and stretch to touch the limits of contacting all parts of ourselves. What conditions challenge you to stay in contact with yourself? What dances would you rather do without the gaze of others? When and where do you hide? What happens when you make contact with another? What happens when you loose contact? We will explore this, and more, in a journey through sight, sound, and movement.
This facilitated collective practice uses a “felt-sense” approach (relying heavily on somatic responses) to surface patterns of interaction and interdependent relationships within a particular system. Together, we will enter the systemic field of attachment wounding to create a dynamic model or map of this particular system in order to visualize the patterns of interaction and widen the shared understanding of attachment individually and collectively.
The 5Rhythms are flowing, staccato, chaos, lyrical and stillness. They come together to create the Wave, a movement meditation practice. There are no steps, just your own expression as choreography. Leaning into each of the rhythms as a teacher, not just in the dance, but in life. What do these rhythms have to teach us? You can expect to meet different and sometimes unknown aspects of yourself as your dance unfolds and your practice of the rhythms deepens over time. The 5Rhythms are states of Being. They are a map to everywhere we want to go, on all planes of consciousness – inner and outer, forward and back, physical, emotional and intellectual. They are markers on the way back to a real self, a vulnerable, wild passionate, instinctive self.
Cyrena Giordano teaches and inspires her students and clients (and just people around her) to embody consent culture and to practice tools and structures to cultivate healthy, nourishing relationships.
Author of Clarity Conversations for Empowered Relationships workbook, alongside teaching numerous workshops, online courses, coaching, enacting interviews, videos and blogs around consent culture and healthy relating, Cyrena continues to ignite hundreds of people into more empowered connections.
After learning the benefits of consent culture on individual relationships and within communities in college, and through her study and major of interactive theater for social change, she created an interactive theater show and was hired to train the 20 co-op housing communities affiliated with her school, UC Berkeley around cultivating consent culture.
Since that time, she’s been highly passionate about the benefits of consent culture and healthy relating, regularly inspiring those around her into deeper choice with themselves and others, which eventually manifested in her solidifying her brand consentaslove at age 26.
Through this brand (among hosting many other workshops throughout the years) she has consolidated all of her content into a regular online course called Empowered Relationships and has expanded into a coaching practice involving healthy relating, mediation, and repair.
Cyrena believes that it's truly through empowered education and awareness of healthy relationships practices that humans can and do obtain and sustain healthy and nourishing connection
This is a workshop that informs humans the overlap and inter-relationablity of trauma- informed care and consent culture. I’ll be covering concepts around basic trauma, how it works, how to actually relate being trauma-informed, poly-vagal theory, basic consent culture and consensual relating, my Consent and the 4 C’s, and how and why that enhances all of our relationships. We will also lightly brush how the drama triangle, attachment theory, and the concept of “domain” relate to trauma-informed relating. Come attend to learn more and have this empowered knowledge enhance your connection to and ability to care for self and other immediately!
This is a workshop that covers the three pillars of healthy relationships! I’ll take you through a journey of my personal story and how and why these three breakthroughs enhance all your relationships while also adding a healthy dose of consent culture in the process! Come and attend to find out these relationship essentials so you can have this empowered knowledge for the rest of your life and attract and sustain the relationships that you deserve and that truly nourish you!
Jaya Berged is a theatremaker and life coach based in Melbourne, Australia. She is passionate about creativity and connection, and pursues all spaces where the two intersect. Attachment theory has been a game changer in her life, and she loves to use her creative practice and mentoring to help facilitate other people's journey towards secure attachment.
A class on acting fundamentals and attachment theory basics, explored through a short story and two monologues. This class creates space for deep reflection and asking/answering questions within the safety net of fiction. Participants can choose their level of personal vulnerability and allow the stories of the characters to guide them into a journey of deeper empathy and well-rounded perspective of various attachment styles.
An exploration of the cyclical/non linear process of growth through the stages of presence, play, practice, and progress. This structure applies to all kinds of growth, but we will use attachment theory as an example to demonstrate how the growth cycle might look in the process of developing relationship health. Participants will come away with deepened self-awareness, and practical ideas for what the next steps in their own growth journeys might look like.
"Liberating all limitation to trust and security, energetically!"
Hani is an Intimacy Transformation Facilitator, the founder of Your Unique Magnetic Momentum (YUMM) Programs, Synchronistic Wealth Summits, Bestselling Author, an International Speaker, and Business Energy Strategist.
Hani helps ambitious leaders embody their sexual, sensual, and relational freedom with advanced mind shifts, quantum healing, spirituality, communication tools, shamanic journeys and breathwork. Hani combines her 15 years of transformational coaching, 8 years of training orgasmic energy, Masters of Innovation, Energy, Dance, and Entrepreneurship experience in her work with clients.
Her team supports thousands of badass priestesses, innovators, corporate leaders, VCs and community members to transform plateaus to exponential fulfillment and embodied liberation. Hani’s work has been on CNN, BBC, ABC, FOX and 300+ media outlets!
In the midst of all the incredible art and science of securely relating, let’s integrate everything you’ve learnt so far one dimension further —- in your energetic body, and your physical movements!
In this experiential ceremony and dance we will (as time permits):
Shayna Cass is an artist, designer, educator, and somatic healer focusing on the intersection between relational trauma and neurodivergence. She's passionate about helping people to connect deeply to themselves so that they can connect deeply with others. Shayna uses a multidisciplinary approach rooted in Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy and expressive arts to help her clients step outside of the neurotypical box they've been trying to fit into their entire lives, embrace their highly sensitive nervous systems, and start living a life that aligns with their authentic nature.
In this 90-minute (or two hour, however long it is) workshop, participants will use IFS mapping to examine the protective and wounded parts that make up their internal landscape, followed up by playback theater exercies where they will get to play the role of SELF and integrate their parts in real time.
In this 90-minute (however long) workshop, participants will examine their values, needs, and desires in order to determine where they might be holding themselves back from the life and love that aligns with their inner truth, and what steps they need to take to call in the relationship of their dreams.
Maya Diamond is an Attachment Expert and Intimacy Coach who is known for helping people shift their destructive patterns in love, and finally find their beloved after years of trying, so that they can have happy, satisfying, and fulfilling relationships.
Maya believes you can heal your insecure attachment, becoming secure, and finding healthy juicy lasting love, and has created a process for doing that at record speed.
Maya is a coach, trained psychotherapist, and holds a Master’s Degree in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies.
In 2016, 2017 and 2018, Maya was named one of the best life coaches in San Francisco by Expertise.com. Her Tedx talk, "The Surprising Key to Building a Healthy Relationship that Lasts," has over 200,000 views. Maya's dating advice has been featured on mindbodygreen.com, wikihow, and elephant journal.com.
Boundaries are the way we keep ourselves safe and show people what we need to be respected and supported. If there was abuse, neglect, or a lack of safety in childhood it can be incredibly hard to speak your NO in relationship. In this workshop, you will discover the subtle and not so subtle ways you have been overriding your own boundaries, clear any thing blocking you from doing so, and learn to speak what's true in your life and your relationships.
In this workshop, we will help you understand your erotic blueprint map, and how you can feed yourself to bring deep pleasure and satiation in your nervous system. You will walk away understanding your erotic blueprint stack and how many ways you can nourish your precious body in your particular blueprints.
Penelope Goldmuntz, PsyD
Penny is a psychologist (PsyD) and a Sacred Depths Coach with over 40 years experience. She is on the faculty of ISTA where she co-facilitates “The Spiritual, Sexual & Shamanic Experience” training around the world.
Penny is the creator of “Inner Peace on Demand”, a program of brief daily practices that bring us into connection with abundance, rewire our nervous system as they alleviate stress and anxiety, and connect us to the deep inner wisdom of our body.
Penny and her husband, Michael, also work with plant medicine and have nurtured the building of a community of people who are growing together in a context of safety, love, and the work of integrating the lessons learned into our everyday life.
As a lifelong student of healing, Penny’s passion is to facilitate a path to transforming our challenges into gifts, to deeply connect to the beauty of who we are, and to be the full expression of our unique beingness.
It is never too late to be inspired by your dreams and to bring them to life. At over 70, Penny continues to inspire and be inspired by the endless opportunities for manifesting and living our dreams.
This program will teach you simple techniques that just take a few minutes and can be done anytime, anywhere. Whenever you are feeling off, whether in a big way or a small way, you can use these mini-practices. And beyond the rapid dissolving of stress in your life - these practices build an embodied connection to the abundance of life. To possessing a deep knowing that you are connected - to yourself, to others, and to Spirit. Why Gratitude? Because being connected to and vibrating the energy of gratitude shifts our nervous system from being in a state of fight, flight, freeze or fawn into a state of being relaxed, present, and responsive. In this workshop you will learn mini practices that you can do throughout the day - every day - no set time or frequency - simply bring awareness and intention to practice them whenever you think of it. Especially if you notice that you are anxious, confused, worrying too much, doubting yourself, easily irritable, overly critical, or overwhelmed. These are small practices you can easily do many times a day. You will immediately feel a lessening of your stressed out state. And within a few months you will see the major impact they have on your well being - on being able to shift out of negative states and be calm, focused, and feeling positive.
Mike Thomas, the “Everyday Consciousness Coach,” has over 20 years of experience working with groups and individuals to optimize their wellness and quality of relationships through mindful movement and habit optimization. His trauma-informed approach maximizes results through working smarter, not harder. Utilizing breathing, alignment principles, and nervous system regulation techniques to deepen awareness reduce stress, and improve overall quality of life, Mike is the professional you seek out when you are ready to establish daily practices and that bring out the greatest version of you possible.
TRE®️is a somatic therapeutic modality that utilizes the “neurogenic tremor mechanism” to shake off excess stored stress/tension/trauma energy from bodily tissues. Several gentle movements warm up the body, ground the feet, and establish a state of nervous system relaxation and safety. The release of oxytocin in the body during TRE approximates the experience of mother-infant bonding. It is soothing, energizing, and expands somatic awareness and capacity to feel. Unconscious, autonomic nervous system patterns are integrated and optimized through allowing the body to release what is no longer needed at an individual pace. This can be considered a “bottom-up” regulation experience, supporting the capacity to learn, grow, heal, and allow your body more choice and intentionality through releasing unconscious blocks to your greatest expression of self. TRE®️goes hand-in-hand with deep inner-child work to support integrating unresolved inner conflicts that get in the way of aligning conscious will and unconscious survival mechanisms of the primal level of self.
Video explanation of TRE: https://youtu.be/1PT1crBhhUE
Using the principles of “attachment as a regulation theory,” and the trauma-informed science of polyvagal theory, this class offers practical tools for self-regulation and co-regulation to improve individual and relational experiences. From learning how to read our own body language and shift our own state as needed for optimum receptivity and love, to reading the body language of and supporting our partners through feeling into their experience and support shifting their state, this class teaches the aikido of relationship. Through deepening awareness of our relational field, this class runs the gambit of tools for enriching the quality of your relationships with others as well as yourself. Using the tools of NVC (“Nonviolent Communication”), breathing, matching/mirroring body language, and integrating your nervous systems together, expect to leave this class with a deepened capacity to love, communicate, enrich your bond, connect with and understand one another.
Did you know that stress is not only a conscious phenomenon? Your autonomic nervous system scans your environment automatically and chooses a mode to function based on what it perceives. This makes everyday experiences appear to come from an unknown cause. Anxiety, depression, hyperactivity, loss of focus, low motivation or energy, poor digestion, tight and/or painful muscles, emotional ups and downs, defensive/aggressive behavior in relationships, and even autoimmune conditions…what do all these have in common? A dysregulated nervous system leaves the mind and body in a survival state that makes all these experiences more likely, and perhaps inevitable eventually. Why? Because our body remembers developmental associations from infancy that set our unconscious mind to perceive threat when there isn’t actually a threat. The result is a chronically stressed nervous system that becomes predisposes to a suboptimal life. You can learn to navigate and “map out” your nervous system experience, and you can change it for the better! Learn all the ways in which you can optimize your life through nervous system regulation with Mike Thomas, The “Everyday Consciousness Coach.”
Steven Seva is a trauma-informed relationship, communication, and emotional intelligence expert. He has been supporting people to experience wellness in romance, sexuality, and spirituality for 15 years. Known for his passionate stage presence and highly compassionate demeanour, he brings a signature charm to the stage.
His style is eloquent, loving, graceful, compassionate, yet provocative. With expertise, Steven brings light to blocks, fears, habits, and self-sabatoging beliefs for us to look at, heal, and transcend.
Steven is the founder and CEO of Relationflix. An online video subscription service platform specializing in educational content on relationships, sexuality, communication skills, emotional intelligence, attachment theory, and conflict resolution.
His training includes courses with ISTA, working with mentors Triambika Ma Vive, Scott Catamas, and Emily Orum. He has taken 5 trainings with The Love Coach Academy on the subjects of compassionate communication, emotional intelligence, and shadow work. He has also taken trauma healing courses with NICABM.
Spinning out of control into attachment wounding or trauma responses is painful and difficult. Our mind panics, we start grasping at straws, and even tend to blame others for our pain. Emotional intelligence invites us to slow down and get to the bottom of what's true and real, free from distortion and projection. When we spiralling into a pain response, it's hard to make sense of reality. Our nervous system and brain is activated in "fix things now" mode, and will often go to unsupportive mechanisms like protest behaviour or deactivating strategies in order to do it. EQ provides us with a frame work to help us regulate our nervous system, create inner clarity and stability, as well as transcend our unhealthy attachment behaviour.
Trevor Getsla has been developing the Somatic Experience of Attachment since 2017, and has a 20 year practice as a structural body worker and somatic counselor. Trevor’s background includes extensive training in martial arts, Rolfing,Tantra, Hakomi Somatic Therapy, and plant medicine.
Trevor’s practice specializes in sophisticated therapeutic bodywork for effective functional changes. He covers a wide spectrum of client goals: from rehabilitative care for any complex orthopedic condition or injury to optimizing exceptional performance for athletes and dynamic movement embodiment. A body-based approach to emotional well being unites everything together. The work is a grounded and systematic process of integration unifying mind, body and spirit for long lasting profound results.
His work is profoundly influenced by a life time of Aikido, Brazilian Juijitsu and other martial arts, Medical Qi Gong, strength training, dance/fire spinning, and other internal embodiment/energetic practices. Unique hands on and movement embodiment derived from these practices are incorporate to facilitate greater functional change and internal cognitive connection with the body.
Practicing since 2003, experience includes 2 years of bodywork school at De Anza College, 2 years of Medical Qi Gong training, 7 years of mentoring in Structural Integration and beyond, private practice, an internship at Stanford with their sports teams, 4 years of professional instructing, and 4 years of contracting with a sports physical therapy clinic.
Attachment Styles "Anxious.... Avoidant... Secure" We all know the terms. The lists of traits. We know we "do it".. even when we aren't aware. For many there is a gap: between understanding attachment theory, and what happens in our lives in real time. Much like we have the impulse to speak, we have the innate impulse for connection. Much like the language we speak was based upon our environment growing up, so too is our non-verbal language of connection, One of the keys to helping forward our journey with attachment is understanding how it feels. as an embodied experience. The "Somatic Experience of Attachment" is an opportunity to have a lot of fun while deepening and explore these themes. In this workshop we will use somatic exercises to illustrate the key points of attachment theory: - The felt experience of attachment styles as a nervous system activating states - What secure "is", and how we can build resilience in holding it - The magnetic interplay of attachment styles We are born of, and hard wired for connection. It is our birthright. The journey of attachment is cradle to grave, much as our journey with relationship. As Esther Perel says: "The level of happiness we have in our lives is directly related to the quality of our relationships." Come join us for a positive and affirming model of love, attachment, and connection.
Dylan Smeder is a relationship coach specializing in attachment theory. With three years of experience, he has developed a unique approach to coaching that combines inner child work with practical tools to help individuals improve their relationships.
His method involves helping people understand and deepen their relationship with their inner child, while also nurturing that relationship to allow the inner child to heal. By empowering them to address their trauma and respond from a place of grounding and knowledge, old patterns can dissolve and a sense of security emerges. With Dylan's guidance, individuals can learn how to create healthier and more fulfilling relationships in their lives, ultimately leading to a sense of wholeness and happiness.
This four-part process that can be used to act out of your center and less out of coping mechanisms. I this class the focus will be anxious, avoidant, or anxious-avoidant patterns.
1. Finding the inner child.
2. Recognize and name coping mechanisms
3. Teach you non-intuitive validation.
4. Help you understand how to use this process to act out of your core and less out of anxious and or avoidant patterns.
On day one we are going to go over the process and practice it live. I’m going to ask for volunteers to share their experiences so that we can look at the practice aloud.
Homework for day one will be to think about the practices and examples that other people shared and journal so that on day two you have an example.
On day two: As part of the practice I will respond to people’s inner child as an example. We will use that example to help you understand the steps and give as many people time to practice as there is time.
Important: This is a workshop series (2 workshops), day 1 is a prerequisite for day 2
Presenter (California, USA)
Arjuna has been working with people since 1981. He is the author of 15 books, including the #1 national bestseller "The Translucent Revolution," and his most recent book, "Radical Brilliance." Together with his ex-wife Chameli, they taught The Deeper Love retreats and trainings in 20 countries for 12 years, an approach to intimate relationship which transforms it into a spiritual practice to evoke a love beyond the personal. Arjuna founded Awakening Coaching in 1995, and trained more than 2000 coaches over 20 years in how to initiate and support living in awake presence.
In this workshop we will drop together through all the different layers of a "me" and a "you" to the dimension waiting for us one flight down from business as usual, where there is only love. Time and separation disappears, and the deepest longing of the heart is fulfilled, with nothing left to be desired. Of course, to avoid the trap of "Spiritual Bypassing," we need to attend to all the dimensions of our experience: body, desire, emotion, trauma as well as external practical life. But having access to this space, both alone and with a partner, becomes a resource in which all the changing dramas of life can rest and dance class.
*Please be prepared to arrive on time and stay the entire duration of the workshop.
We do hatha yoga asanas to stretch the muscles and joints, to open up rigid or stuck postures that limit our self expression. In this workshop we will use movement, play and theater and a lot of humor to do the same with the rigid postures of who we have taken ourselves to be. We will arrive together at a place where what was solid as identity has become liquid again, and where you can see the other as an unfathomable mystery to be explored
*Please be prepared to arrive on time and stay the entire duration of the workshop.